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small pink rose as symbol of a girl's budding womanhoodPassage to womanhood

We don’t have many road maps for growing ourselves up gracefully in our contemporary western culture. And so we are often left on our own to struggle with questions such as ‘What does it mean that I’m becoming a woman?’ and ‘How will I know I’ve arrived?’   The ceremonies outlined below are designed to fill some of this gap.

Budding ceremony (for girls ~12-14)

A private ceremony for the girl starting her passage to womanhood. Often
celebrated with her mother and one or two mature women from her intimate

This ceremony honours the awesome maturation process at work in the girl’s
being as she ripens towards full womanhood – body, mind and soul. A budding
ceremony can be performed to honour the onset of menstruation (menarche)
and/or as a celebration of reaching the ‘teen’ years.

The ceremony inspires with

  • life-affirming messages about what it means to be becoming a woman
  • support and encouragement to cultivate a positive relationship with
    her own bodily & instinctual nature
  • gifts to feed her growing sense of herself as a unique feminine being
    filled with creative potential

Blossoming ceremony (for girls ~16-18)

A joyful celebration of blossoming womanhood, for the young woman and
her chosen guests.

How often in our lives do we get to be the centre of positive attention
and admiration? This ceremony is an opportunity for the young woman to
get dressed up in all her finery and be made a fuss of as she is ritually
blessed and welcomed into the circle of women.

This ‘coming of age’ ceremony acknowledges a growing freedom – the freedom
to make our own choices and decisions about we want for ourselves, about
how we share the gift that we are with intimate others and the wider world
– and the corresponding responsibilities that we as women hold, for our
own wellbeing and that of the world around us.

As she stands on the threshold from girlhood to womanhood, the young
woman is given the opportunity to recognise and value the gifts and challenges
of her past as she says a final farewell to childhood, and to say thank
you to the special people who have nurtured her unfolding body and spirit
to this point.

Once she has symbolically stepped over the threshold into womanhood,
the young woman is blessed with good wishes for her onward journey and
given symbolic gifts to represent some of the qualities that may help
her to find her own way forward into the unknown future that lies before

The ceremony generally concludes with dancing, feasting and general merriment!

Gift Ideas for Buds & Blossoms

For Buds

  • A handy purse or bag for those womanly essentials – make one, or
    buy one and add your own decorative touches
  • Brightly coloured cloth menstrual pads – shop around on the internet
    or make your own
  • Wheat pack – to soothe away any aches and pains
  • Fresh flowers & fruits – to feed her senses – some people like
    to include a small block of organic choclate..
  • Herbal potions and lotions, eg. rose hand cream, herbal deodorant,
    a gentle facial scrub & moisturiser, etc
  • A beautiful fairy/goddess doll, all dressed in red, to be a watchful
    friend and guardian as she grows into full womanhood
  • Handmade red bead bracelet to wear during her bleeding time or whenever
    she wants to feel connected to the circle of women
  • Gift voucher for ear piercing – if she hasn’t already had them done
    – and a pair of gold sleepers
  • Creative media – paints & brushes or soft rainbow crayons &
    sketchblock – to feed her budding creative woman-self
  • A decorated blank book to use as a journal or dream-diary and some
    coloured pens – to support her awakening inner life
  • Books by or about women who have lived inspirational lives
  • Tarot cards, runes, angel cards or the like – to support her in
    tapping into her own inner wisdom

For Blossoms

  • Pampering pack of herbal potions and lotions, eg. rose hand cream,
    peppermint foot rub, body scrub, moisturiser, scented oils, etc
  • Henna tattoo set with henna & stencils – to embellish her beautiful
  • A special item of jewellery eg. a goddess pendant, a garnet ring
    – as a memento of the occasion & a connection to the sacred women’s
  • Gift voucher for ear piercing – if she hasn’t already had them done
  • A dressy handbag or clutch purse – for evening wear
  • Creative media eg. paints & brushes, pastel crayons & sketchblock,
    coloured pens & journal – to feed & support her ongoing journey
    of unfoldment as a woman
  • Tools of her chosen trade or profession – for the student / apprentice
    with clear aspirations
  • A basic tool set and/or cordless drill
  • Books by or about women who have lived inspirational lives
  • Tarot cards, runes, angel cards or the like – to support her in
    tapping into her own inner wisdom